Welcome to the confessional!
Here's how it works. Every week I post a confession and invite and encourage others to post a confession of their own.
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For myself, the confession I post will be meant for public knowledge about me. That said, I intend to also anonymously post confessions intermingled among others that I don't necessarily want to be known by family and friends who read.
Today I confess...
to the sin of PRIDE.
My son is 17 and in 12th grade. He's getting ready to go to university next year.
He's flying. And I'm just so proud!
Up until the end of last year's school year he's had such a difficult time.
You see, he's a gifted guy. Not a genius but he's gifted. Gifted kids are "different" kids. In most ways they're a lot more mature than their peers but in other ways they are immature. They live in their heads a lot more and are quite idealistic. They are very sensitive emotionally. This means they often don't connect easily in social environments with their age group. They live in a world of idealistic perfection and don't understand their silly and inconsistent peers. For this reason, he's felt that he has been an outsider for the past seven years.
Near the end of 10th grade he had a short crisis where he was at such a loss that he was looking at things like depression and anxiety. I think he was hoping for an easy cure. I think he wanted to stop feeling the way he felt and taking a pill a day would be an easy fix.
We went to some counseling even though I knew his problem was loneliness. He didn't feel he fit in anywhere except at home. At home he laughed and joked and smiled and enjoyed life. At school he was in that limbo of being socially mature/immature and, being that school is the biggest part of a 10th grader's life, it was on his mind a lot.
I told him that while many people say that the high school years are the best years, they lie. I told him those are the most difficult years anyone goes through. Those are the most difficult years for almost everyone. I told him that it wouldn't be long until he's in university where he will find himself smack in the middle of thousands of people who are thinking and doing in a very similar way to him. I told him that in university people will have caught up to where he is. I told him that his job was to prepare as best he could for university; he has to prepare for the best part of his life.
I encouraged him to join clubs where he would find "people like him". He joined the yearbook club. He found it helped a little.
In 11th grade I convinced him to run with this strategy so he joined the robotics club as well. They participated in Skills Alberta and came in second for the province, barely missing competing in Skills Canada.
He also gave in to me when I suggested that he take advanced placement academic courses rather than optional courses like shop to enable him to spend the majority of his time with other students more in line with his
We started celebrating his geekiness and talking about how his intellect is going to make him rich and I pointed to geeks like Bill Gates. I told him that it's the geeks that have the power to influence the world. He has the potential to exercise that kind of power too.
It helps that there are shows on television now like Big Bang Theory. He watches that and laughs his guts out while the "jokes" fly right over my head.
He has been involved in Scouts since he was 5 years old. He's still involved. He's an outdoorsy kind of guy. He likes the geeky survival skills like starting a fire using a battery and steel wool.
This fall, the Scouts Area Commissioner met him and was so impressed by his maturity that she put him forward as Youth Area Commissioner. He was interviewed by a panel and they agreed he is an exceptional kid. Now, he's helping to influence the programs in our area to give youth the best experience possible.
This coming summer he will be traveling with his Scouts Venturers group to Sweden for the World Jamboree.
This year he added the Honours Society to his list of clubs at school.
As I type, he is volunteering as camp counselor for a Calgary Board of Education program called outdoor school where every 5th grader gets to go to camp. He left Tuesday afternoon and will be gone until Friday afternoon. I love that he is giving of himself. For that, he'll get extra school credits even though he'd have been just as gung-ho to do it even without reward.
He is busy researching all the possible scholarships for which he can apply.
Last week a letter came from school. He earned honours for grade 11. It also said he earned an "other" award. The honours certificates will be handed out in the library. We then have to go to a presentation ceremony to collect his "other" award. I can't wait to see what it is! I think he'd be chuffed if it were a scholarship.
I am so proud of all that he is accomplishing and all that he is becoming. Mostly, I'm so proud that he is finding his own stride. Even if it's a geeky one.
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~ E.E. Cummings
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