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Welcome to the confessional!
Here's how it works. Every week I post a confession and invite and encourage others to post a confession of their own.
Confessions can be deep, funny, emotional, hysterical, happy, sad, angry, ranting, thankful, wishful, wistful, regretful, joyful, simple or complex. They can be dreams, regrets, wishes, goals, disappointments or surprises. Confessions can be posted using your name, a clever profile name or anonymously.
For myself, the confession I post will be meant for public knowledge about me. That said, I intend to also anonymously post confessions intermingled among others that I don't necessarily want to be known by family and friends who read.
Today, I confess...
that I am happy.
My 17 yr old son and I were in the family room when a commercial for E-Harmony came on the television.
"Maybe you should give that a try," he said.
At first I didn't know what he meant.
"E-Harmony?"
"Yes. Or something like that..." he sort of tried to back track.
"Why should I try 'something like that'?" I wondered.
"Because I would like to see you happy," he told me.
I love it that he wants to see his mom happy. What a self-less thought.
He's a somewhat shy guy. He's a gifted kid and has always been generally "different" from kids his age.
His father met the woman he's now living with through E-Harmony.
I think he might have the idea that that's how you meet someone special because of these two things.
I told him, "I am happy. I'm very happy."
I explained to him that while I don't have anyone special in my life, I am very happy because I have so many people who care about and love me from family to a big group of friends to him and his sister and even the four-legged kids.
I told him that one day someone will come along who makes me even happier and that will be a good thing. I also explained to him that I believe that I need to meet someone in person.
My feeling is that on web sites, men have too much time to consider and revise their answers or profiles so that they are more appealing to the type of person they are looking for but that they may not necessarily be anything even close to what they put out there. Of course, there are exceptions.
I did, for a period of about 3 months give the online dating thing a try. I messaged with a handful, had coffee with one and went out a few times with another. My experience was that they were nothing like their descriptions of themselves.
I know many have made great connections through online dating. Maybe it was just that there wasn't anyone who suited me at the time or maybe I didn't "try" enough of them since it's a numbers thing but it just didn't suit me.
I didn't tell my son that I had experience with online dating but I did say that I prefer to meet someone in person so that I can see for myself the kind of person they are. I told him that I believe that the way a person behaves in real life is much more telling to me than a profile where a person can weigh and edit their descriptions or answers to sound more attractive.
I told him that since I'm already happy I don't have a burning need to meet someone. I told him that some people think, "I need a man/woman," or "I'm so lonely." I feel nothing like that. I told him that one day I will meet someone who is doing something I like while I'm out doing it and that will be better for me.
Something I didn't tell him is that another reason I'm not in a rush is that I want to raise my kids without another person's input. Already there is me, their father and the woman he's living with. Also, I know that meeting a person at my same age and stage of life probably means that they will have children too. I'm not eager to raise anyone's kids either. I only ever planned on raising the two I had.
Plans change. I'm open to meeting someone and seeing where it goes. It would be nice to share the intimacy of thoughts and feelings. The physical comfort would be very welcome. But I'm in no hurry.
That's not to say that I won't one day give online dating another try.
For now, I am happy. Very happy.
As always, I welcome comments on my confession.
What about you? Do you have a confession you'd like to share? Remember, you can do it using your name, a profile name or anonymously. Just click "...added their 2 cents" below to open the comment box. I'd love to hear your confession!
Confessions can be deep, funny, emotional, hysterical, happy, sad, angry, ranting, thankful, wishful, wistful, regretful, joyful, simple or complex. They can be dreams, regrets, wishes, goals, disappointments or surprises. Confessions can be posted using your name, a clever profile name or anonymously.
For myself, the confession I post will be meant for public knowledge about me. That said, I intend to also anonymously post confessions intermingled among others that I don't necessarily want to be known by family and friends who read.
Today, I confess...
that I am happy.
My 17 yr old son and I were in the family room when a commercial for E-Harmony came on the television.
"Maybe you should give that a try," he said.
At first I didn't know what he meant.
"E-Harmony?"
"Yes. Or something like that..." he sort of tried to back track.
"Why should I try 'something like that'?" I wondered.
"Because I would like to see you happy," he told me.
I love it that he wants to see his mom happy. What a self-less thought.
He's a somewhat shy guy. He's a gifted kid and has always been generally "different" from kids his age.
His father met the woman he's now living with through E-Harmony.
I think he might have the idea that that's how you meet someone special because of these two things.
I told him, "I am happy. I'm very happy."
I explained to him that while I don't have anyone special in my life, I am very happy because I have so many people who care about and love me from family to a big group of friends to him and his sister and even the four-legged kids.
I told him that one day someone will come along who makes me even happier and that will be a good thing. I also explained to him that I believe that I need to meet someone in person.
My feeling is that on web sites, men have too much time to consider and revise their answers or profiles so that they are more appealing to the type of person they are looking for but that they may not necessarily be anything even close to what they put out there. Of course, there are exceptions.
I did, for a period of about 3 months give the online dating thing a try. I messaged with a handful, had coffee with one and went out a few times with another. My experience was that they were nothing like their descriptions of themselves.
I know many have made great connections through online dating. Maybe it was just that there wasn't anyone who suited me at the time or maybe I didn't "try" enough of them since it's a numbers thing but it just didn't suit me.
I didn't tell my son that I had experience with online dating but I did say that I prefer to meet someone in person so that I can see for myself the kind of person they are. I told him that I believe that the way a person behaves in real life is much more telling to me than a profile where a person can weigh and edit their descriptions or answers to sound more attractive.
I told him that since I'm already happy I don't have a burning need to meet someone. I told him that some people think, "I need a man/woman," or "I'm so lonely." I feel nothing like that. I told him that one day I will meet someone who is doing something I like while I'm out doing it and that will be better for me.
Something I didn't tell him is that another reason I'm not in a rush is that I want to raise my kids without another person's input. Already there is me, their father and the woman he's living with. Also, I know that meeting a person at my same age and stage of life probably means that they will have children too. I'm not eager to raise anyone's kids either. I only ever planned on raising the two I had.
Plans change. I'm open to meeting someone and seeing where it goes. It would be nice to share the intimacy of thoughts and feelings. The physical comfort would be very welcome. But I'm in no hurry.
That's not to say that I won't one day give online dating another try.
For now, I am happy. Very happy.
As always, I welcome comments on my confession.
What about you? Do you have a confession you'd like to share? Remember, you can do it using your name, a profile name or anonymously. Just click "...added their 2 cents" below to open the comment box. I'd love to hear your confession!
